It’s an old saying that that man can not relay to women, not trying to sleep with them, but in my practice the men who say – and it’s almost always men – usually have some kind of insecurity. I got my first adult male friend, Chris, when I was 20. We meet for a drink after ringing the newspaper he was working to complain about something I had written, and talked.
This case is jumping back and forth to the tone of tenderness, and violations of our relationship. We discussed a lot adult personal and belittled each other prejudices. In fact, we were so confident that we would sleep together in one day, we do not push the issue, and then months passed and we both realized that the moment had passed. When I asked him, his girlfriend may be jealous in spite of everything, said: “Oh, how much more we talk about it.”
I found many friends on friend finder sites. My male friends have tended to follow the model, to go out for drinks and meals, while sitting in the car to talk late into the night. Being able to talk about relationships – and sex – and hear the unvarnished truth of the “other side” is nothing like talking to women, although I love them all.
I have also always been easier to be honest when I talk again with the man. It ‘pretty hard to tell the woman: “That man will not play for you – he just did not that into you”, because they take criticism and do not talk to a month. But the man is freed from everything. You can say, “Forget it, he obviously is not good to you,” and they just said, “Okay.”
My best male friend is now happily married, but when she was alone and unhappy, he had to choose women who do not appreciate it and told him so. Marriage of his mother silently thanked me for being a good friend to him, which is one of my most cherished moments. I thought fancy him; he is a talented, funny and beautiful. When I met Peter, who was married, had simply no contest.
Sorry, but men and women really can not be “good friends”, at least not from the beginning. My close friends are those straight men with whom he had an affectionate relationship and / or sexual abuse in the past, but if it was an adventure or a relationship itself, the dust to settle on both sides before we can re – set up a lasting friendship.
I met my closest friend of the men of 30 years. As a teenager, I dragged him as an adoring puppy. We finally slept together and turn on and off over the next few years, but after several false starts our friendship has really started when he finally met his wife, whom I adore. One of the things that make our friendship so easily is that their relationship is strong enough to support it and then there is absolutely no jealousy.
